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4 Ways To Stay Calm When Life Bumps You Again & Again

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Stress is part of our day-to-day life. Even if sometimes we don’t acknowledge them, stressful situations pop-up during our daily grinds.

The most important thing is to be able to cope with these stressful situations.

You can’t predict and manage the external factors causing these hard times, but you can learn how to manage the internal factors.

You can change the way you react, because that's what you can control.

By staying calm during stressful times you can manage to think about your problems and eventually come up with a great solutions for them.

So remaining in a calm state is a must! Here are 4 suggestions on how you can stay calm when things in your life seem to go wrong: 

4 Ways to Stay Calm When Life Bumps You Again & Again

1. Don’t Overreact!

From time to time, we all overreact. We tend to turn a small problem into an impossible one. This way, we make it harder to be solved. 

Keep in mind, 5% what life throws at you, 95% is how you react to it. 

The best way to stop overreacting is to detach yourself from the stressful situation and calm down.

2. Detach and Calm Yourself

To control your stress level you really need to disconnect from it.

You are in the office and you bump into a disastrous situation, how do you deal with it? Well, the first thing you need to do is to stop everything you are doing and try to lower the stress level.

Secondly, the best way to detach yourself is to think about something else

Get up, go outside, and take a walk, think about something else. While doing this, plan your future holiday, think about pleasant memories you have. Five to ten minutes will be enough, you will be calm and ready to get back up again.

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3. Positive Attitude is a Must

This is a must for stressful situations! You need to see the glass half full. We are the sum of every experience we are going through. The more variated your experiences, the more adaptable you become, thus the easier it will be for you to cope with everything life throws at you.
Whenever you get into a stressful situation, once you detach yourself from it and you reach a certain level of peacefulness, you turn all the bad energy into positive attitude and actions.

How can you do this?
  • Fill your mind with positivity: “You are smart, you can get through this.”, “Other have been through worse. If they were able to cope with it, you are capable, also.”
  • Search for logical explanations to your statements “I’m witty, I can do X, Y, and Z. These steps will get out of this situation.”
  • Plan your way out, Sherlock!

4. Plan Your Way Out of The Situation

It’s vital that you plan your way out. If you don’t do that, you are like a ship, without rudder, during a storm, you are adrift. Come up with some easy steps to get back up again.

For the best results your plan should have S.M.A.R.T.E.R. goals:
  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Achievable
  • Relevant
  • Timed
  • Evaluated
  • Reviewed
For example: You got into a stressful situation because you didn’t achieve the monthly sales target. Your boss called you up and during the meeting, he scolded you because of that. The meeting finished, you took a stroll for a few minutes, you energized yourself. 

Now, you should create a plan to get you out of this situation and increase those sales. Here’s a practical example of S.M.A.R.T.E.R. goals:
  • Specific- Increase the number of cold calls by 30 per day
  • Measurable- This means you shouldn’t have abstract goals, such as “I want to increase the number of cold calls.” Be more specific, 30 is a precise goal.
  • Achievable- Make sure that your goals are achievable in the determined time period.
  • Relevant- It’s useless starting email marketing campaigns if the only way to reach your customers is by phone, right?
  • Timed- This should be done by the end of the month-30 days.
  • Evaluated- At the end of each week, you should have a log of your daily activity. How many calls you had in the past week?
  • Reviewed- If you achieved your goal, how did you manage to do that? If not, what stopped you from reaching your goals. Find the reasons behind your success or failure and use them to learn.


Each and every one of us gets through stressful situations and hard times. They come and go, but is really important the way you handle them. You need to control yourself, not overreact to them, and detach yourself.

A really important part of this process is to plan your way out of these stressful situations. You can use S.M.A.R.T.E.R. goals for your plan, you can use different ways of outlining your plan. It’s vital having a plan if not, you are adrift.

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Amelia is HR expert and blogger at nsw writers.
Her passion is to show that it isn’t something impossible in the world of business and marketing.

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